Opening the Door to Intimacy

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Here are some keys to help improve the intimacy in your relationship:

  • Discuss your definition of intimacy with your significant other
  • Make sure that you understand each other’s ideas of intimacy – it might mean cuddling to one person and much more to another
  • Maintain as much physical contact as possible – physical isolation heightens emotional separation

Everyone argues, but remember these hints to help maintain intimacy even after a fight:

  • Stick to the issue at hand, resisting the temptation to dredge up past hurts or problems
  • Never resort to name calling or losing your temper
  • If you feel yourself losing your temper, agree to continue the discussion later
  • Avoid sarcasm
  • Use ‘I’ statements and avoid blaming
  • Instead of getting stuck on ‘who did what’, focus on feelings